Looking for Mr. Right? It’s time to create a clear image in your mind (and on paper) of who Mr. Right should be. Read on to discover just how to create a list of values and qualities your Mr. Right should possess.
Before we begin, I want you to grab a journal, or piece of paper, and a pencil (it is okay to make changes, cross out or erase things) and find somewhere comfortable to sit down and relax. Turn on some soft music while you’re at it.
You’re sitting down and comfortable, now consider ALL the men you have known and admired in your lifetime. But not just those you have known personally, those you have great admiration and appreciation for. Consider the reasons you admire them. Write down those values and qualities you find so attractive.
Sometimes those close to us know us better than we know ourselves; talk to your friends and family. You probably think you have a solid foundation of values and qualities you want in a man. But consider asking those close to you; someone might chime in with a good suggestion that harmonize with your tastes and how you think. Be sure to write these down too!!
It’s time to combine lists if you haven’t already and PRIORITIZE! Put those values and qualities most important to you at the top, and those you find less important at the bottom. Again, it is OKAY to make changes! It is okay to have ties!
Re-write your list with ONLY the most important values and qualities. Did your initial list have qualities that were by no means “deal breakers”? Lose them. Finalize your list with ONLY the qualities and values that are NOT optional!
Keep this list close by and refer to it when you start dating a new guy to avoid falling for a guy who’s charm is a mask. As you continue to date, add to this list, make changes, swap things out. We grow and change, but our most imperative values and qualities we want in a man and in a relationship won’t, not excessively at least.